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A FATHER'S RESPONSIBILITY
Reasons Why It’s Good
To Be a
A FATHER'S RESPONSIBILITY
Seeing that Abraham shall surely become a great and mighty nation, and all the
nations of the earth shall be blessed in him? For I know him, that he will
command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way
of the Lord, to do justice and judgment; that the Lord may bring upon Abraham
that which he hath spoken of him.
PROVIDER- The Father is charged
with providing for the family. Paul says that if a man will not provide for his
own he has denied the faith and is worst than an Infidel. He told the
Thessalonians that if a man would not work neither should he eat. It is the
responsibility of the Father to provide food and shelter for his family.
Families need an Authority Figure. The lack of such a Figure can be seen in
today's society: Suicide, drug abuse, alcoholism, and sexual promiscuity are
epidemic among teenagers. An estimated 20 teens attempt to end their lives
every 30 minutes. Approximately 685 teens become drug users ever 30 minutes.
Some 23 teenage girls have abortions every 30 minutes. More than 3 million
American teenagers have been treated for alcoholism since 1980. About 9,000
teenagers are killed each year while driving drunk.
THE PUNISHER- Prov 13:24 He that spareth his rod hateth his son; but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes. Never punish your child when YOU'RE angry- you're not punishing them to satisfy your Pride but for their good . Compliment and criticize your child's behavior--not the child. (EXAMPLE- A Minister's son had played hokey from school for 3 days. When he was caught his father told him that he was going to punish him equal to the crime so he banished him to the attic of the parsonage for 3 days where all he had was a bed and 3 meals. After supper when the minister tried to lay down all he could think of was his son all alone in the attic so he climbed the stairs and found his son wide awake. They hugged and then lay down together to spend the night. The next two nights were the same. Just like God this father shared the punishment with the "sinner".
THE PATTERN- A man was crossing a field to a tavern one day when he looked behind him and saw his son. "Look dad", the boy exclaimed. "I'm following in your footsteps". The dad immediately turned around and went back home. One congregation found that where both parents are faithful to the Lord 93% of the kids remain faithful. If one parent was faithful the figure dropped to 73%. When both parents were only moderately faithful then only 53% of the young people remained faithful and when both parents were only occasional attendee's the figure dropped to 6%. These statistics speak a loud and clear message. Your children will follow you leading.
THE PRIEST- DEU 6:4-9 Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God is one LORD: And thou shalt love the LORD thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might. And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up. And thou shalt bind them for a sign upon thine hand, and they shall be as frontlets between thine eyes. And thou shalt write them upon the posts of thy house, and on thy gates.
Fathers, Your responsibilities are awesome. You need help. The Heavenly Father wants to enable you to be the Father you should be. Commit yourself to him today.
There were two significant news reports last week- A fight broke out at a little league game- between parents and coaches!!! The American Atheist Society had a champagne dinner celebrating 25 years of "Prayerless Schools". Fathers have a responsibility today that is awesome; and can only be handled if that father has a personal continuing relationship with Christ.
1. I would love the mother of my children more- Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; I would seek to be faithful in doing little loving things for her--opening the car doors, placing her chair at the table, giving her little gifts on special occasions, and writing her love letters when I'm gone from home. I would take her hand as we stroll in the park. I would praise her in the presence of my children. A child who knows his parents love each other has a security and stability about life which is gained no other way.
2. I would
listen more. Most fathers find it hard to listen. We are busy with the
burdens of work; at the end of the day we are tired. I would listen when my
child shares his little hurts and complaints, and what he is excited about. And
I would try to refrain from words of impatience at the interruption. Such times
can be the best times to show love and kindness.
3. I would seek more opportunities to give my child a feeling of belonging. PS 127:3 Children are an heritage of the Lord; and the fruit of the womb is His reward. When a child feels he belongs in his family and is of real worth there, it is not a big step to also feel accepted, loved, and of worth to others and in God's sight. A child feels he belongs when he is involved in the responsibility and work of the family. Celebration of birthdays, when the person rather that the gifts is central, creates a sense of belonging. That same sense is built into the chid when he hears prayers prayed on his behalf. No part of child guidance is more important than assuring the child by action and word that he is important and that he has a place in the affections of the family.
4. I would express words of appreciation and praise more. Many children seldom hear words of commendation and encouragement when they do a job well or exhibit good behavior. Probably no other thing encourages a child to love life, to seek accomplishment and to gain confidence more than proper, sincere praise- not flattery, but honest compliments when he does well. Correct the wrong; Commend the right.
5. I would
spend more time together. Eph 5:16 Make the most
of every opportunity, because the days are evil. A group of 300 seventh and
eighth grade boys kept accurate records of how much time their fathers actually
spent with them over a two-week period. Most saw their father only at the
dinner table. A number never saw their father for days at a time. The average
time a father and son were alone for an entire week was 7 1/2 minutes.
6. I would laugh more- Proverbs 17:22 A cheerful heart doeth good like a medicine, but a broken spirit drieth the bones. Somehow we manage enough muscle to handle the big things of life but forget that life is largely made up of little things. A father's faithfulness in the small things determines the happiness of his children...and, not just that, it strongly influences their spiritual direction.
7. The best father is the one who knows God as his heavenly father. Only Jesus Christ can provide that relationship. Place that childlike faith in Christ today.
Heb 11:7 By faith Noah, being warned of God of things not seen as yet, moved with fear, prepared an ark to the saving of his house; by the which he condemned the world, and became heir of the righteousness which is by faith.
Being a Father
in these last days is a difficult task. A Father must be a Provider, a Partner,
a Priest, and a Pattern. In the case of Noah this meant:
Noah could do this because He:
I. HAD A RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD- Noah walked with God on a daily basis. He did not simply know ABOUT God he knew God!
II. LISTENED TO THE WORD OF GOD- God told Noah what was going to happen and what he should do to make preparations and Noah followed God's instructions. What do you do in your life that is caused by God's directions to you??
III. ACTED UPON WHAT GOD SAID-
Prepared an ark to the saving of his household.
IV. WAS WILLING TO FACE OPPOSITION TO STAND FOR GOD. Condemned all who did not heed god's advice- Other children were more popular but Noah's didn't drown!!
V. LOOKED BEYOND "NOW" TO THE
FUTURE. He had respect unto the recompense of Reward. Willing to build a
Boat now for a Mansion in the future.
On this day
when we honor Mothers, I thought it would be good to give some Godly Examples
for Children to emulate. Mothers have a tough time today finding
"Heroes" for their children to follow; Dad is so busy working or
trying to be a "90's man" (afraid to be a leader for fear of being
chauvinist) until he doesn't have time to be the example children need so they
make heroes out of "Ninja Turtles" and half-clothed, drug crazed rock
I. NOAH, THE
LABORER- Heb 11:7
THE VISIONARY Heb 11: 8-13
III. MOSES, THE
LEADER Heb 11:23-29 (Article in Today's Paper- Leaders are better at leading
than at doing. Of course, that's what makes them leaders!!) Everyone needs to
know his place in life.
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