Our current college culture has enthusiastically embraced what is termed as "hookups." On July 14, 2013, the New York Times devoted seven pages of the paper to basically promote this nauseating practice among college women. From the description in the article, "hookups" involve sex without dating, without a real relationship, and often with very little information or knowledge about the partners. The primary concern seems to be how well their male hookup "performed." In fact, many of the young women indicated that they didn't even like the young man with whom they hooked up. Often the women stated that they had to be somewhat drunk in order to be able to engage in sex with their hookup partner. The tone of the article celebrated the fact that young women were able to do the same thing teen boys and college men had been doing in modern times. The facts concerning these things ought to cause one to really question this practice:
drunkenness, no dating, no real relationship outside of sex, no real attraction other than sex; simply rutting like animals! The "hookup" mentality seems to be a popular alternative for those women who are intensely interested in attaining status, career, and financial security before settling down with a husband, children and the traditional family life. In all too many cases where women have engaged in these things, the result is guilt, sorrow, sexual illness (STDs), abortion, and an inability to forge normal family relationships!
It is important to understand that God is the Author of all sexuality, since He
created us as sexual beings (see Genesis 1-3). However, He places real
guidelines and limits as to how it is to be practiced!
Sexual love between life partners (husband and wife) is one of the most
beautiful, enjoyable, and intimate expressions of human love. However, when
reduced to the promiscuity of the "hookup" culture today, it becomes
guilt-ridden, dangerous, and demeaning to those who practice the easy sex life
of many college students today! It also reduces the most intimate expressions
of love to something as common as taking our daily shower. Doctor Miriam
Grossman is a Psychologist who has worked at UCLA with many college women. She
has a short brochure titled "Sense and Sensuality" that is downloadable on her
website (Miriamgrossmanmd.com) that gives
invaluable advice from both a psychological and medical viewpoint. We would
recommend that all parents read it and make sure their teen-age sons and
daughters read it too. The ideal relationship of males and females is in the
genuinely monogamous, lifetime, loving relationship God intended in marriage
(Matthew 19:3-12)! We can understand a reaction from those who have seen the
hypocrisy of easy divorce, no penalties for illegitimacy, etc. However, even
those with a reasonably stable family background often fall prey because of the
peer pressure to give their bodies to the use of those who really do not care for them! This writer and his
wife raised four daughters. If they were at home today, we would not consider
sending them to public colleges and universities away from home where this behavior
is commonplace. We also need to make clear that God is not a respecter of
persons (Acts 10:34; Galatians 3:28-29). The same morality expected of young
women is also expected of young men! The family consisting of both a father,
mother and children has for thousands of years been the foundation of all
civilization, and is the purpose of males and females being sexual beings.
After creating Adam and Eve, the Bible says, "So God created man in his own
image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. And
God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply,
and replenish the earth, and subdue it..." (Genesis 1:27-28). Ultimately, this is
the legacy of human beings, to glorify God in the things He created
(Ecclesiastes 12:13-14)!
Ed Rodgers, Forney, TX
